Momentum Healing

What do you think of when you hear the term, Groundhog Day? Do you think of Punxsutawney Phil, the famous groundhog in Pennsylvania popping out of his lair every February to predict the weather? Or do you gravitate beyond weather predictions and flash back to the 1993 movie, Groundhog Day, where the main character relives the same day repeatedly?

The term "Groundhog Day" has since been used metaphorically to describe situations where people feel stuck in a repetitive cycle, facing the same challenges, routines, or problems repeatedly without apparent progress or change.

When someone says they are living a Groundhog Day-like experience, it typically means they feel caught in a monotonous and unchanging routine, often characterized by a lack of personal and/or professional growth. The Groundhog Day loop is a metaphor for the seemingly endless repetition of negative thoughts, emotions, and behaviors that hinder personal growth and well-being. The repetitive nature of these experiences can lead to feelings of frustration, boredom, and a sense of being stuck in a never-ending loop. Whether it's persistent anxiety, self-doubt, or destructive habits, breaking free from these patterns is crucial for a fulfilling life. Common elements of living a Groundhog Day type of existence are:

Routine and Predictability: You may find yourself following the same daily patterns without variation, leading to a sense of monotony and boredom.

Lack of Progress: You may have the perception that things are not improving or changing for the better in your life. Goals may seem elusive, and personal development may feel stagnant.

Repetition of Challenges: You may notice that the same problems, obstacles, or conflicts resurface repeatedly, making it challenging to move forward or find a resolution.

Feeling Trapped: You may feel a sense of being trapped, unable to break free from the cycle of sameness.

Emotional Impact:  You may feel the emotional toll of living in a repetitive loop which can lead to frustration, boredom, and a feeling of being stuck in life.

So, let me ask you: have YOU ever felt trapped in a cycle of repetitive thoughts and behaviors, as if every day is a never-ending loop like the movie Groundhog Day?

You are not alone, and breaking free from such patterns can be challenging. But the holistic, self-healing modalities of Emotion Code, Body Code, and Belief Code offer profound healing and transformation. These modalities work together to release emotional baggage, address physical imbalances, and release negative programs and limiting beliefs, ultimately helping you escape the Groundhog Day loop of your own life. Here’s how:

Emotion Code: Releasing Emotional Baggage

The Emotion Code focuses on identifying and releasing trapped emotions that contribute to physical and emotional distress. These trapped emotions are negative energies that get lodged in the body, disrupting the natural flow of energy. Like a stone in a stream, they create turbulence that affects your thoughts and behaviors. By clearing emotional baggage, you can experience a sense of lightness and freedom, paving the way for a break from the Groundhog Day loop.

Body Code: Balancing the Energy System

The Body Code addresses imbalances not only at the emotional level, but also energy, circuits/systems, toxins, pathogens, misalignments, and nutritional/lifestyle deficiencies. Imbalances in the body's energy system can contribute to repetitive patterns of thought and behavior. By restoring balance to the body's energy system, you can experience relief from physical and emotional challenges, breaking the Groundhog Day loop at its roots.

Belief Code: Reprogramming Limiting Beliefs

Beliefs play a crucial role in shaping our thoughts and behaviors. Belief Code identifies and releases negative programs and limiting beliefs that contribute to your Groundhog Day loop. These beliefs are often formed early in life and can hold you back from reaching your full potential. By replacing limiting beliefs with empowering ones, you can create a positive mindset that supports personal growth and breaks the cycle of repetitive thoughts and behaviors.

Breaking free from the Groundhog Day loop requires a holistic approach that addresses emotional, physical, and belief-based aspects of your being. Emotion Code releases emotional baggage, Body Code balances your energy system, and Belief Code reprograms limiting beliefs, all providing a direct pathway to self-healing and transformation. As you experience the life changing impact of these modalities, you may find yourself escaping the repetitive patterns that have held you captive, stepping into a new, more vibrant chapter of your life!

To your healing!

~Candace ❤️

Client Testimonial Feature

Client Testimonial:

"Candace with Momentum Healing has changed my pup for the better. My dog is a rescue. I knew when I got her that she had been abused the first 8 months of her life. It took me two years to earn her trust but there were still some triggers that would send my little girl into hiding or make her anxious. I had a session with Candace for myself on the recommendation of a friend and after noticing the changes in me, I just had to do this for my pup. After the first of two sessions, I could see the changes in her. She was happy and energetic and even stayed downstairs next to me. She used to sit upstairs by herself in her chair. When my roommate returned from traveling, he mentioned to me how my dog seemed more confident and happier. I never told him I had a session for her! While he was walking her in the park, some children came up to her and she just stopped and let them pet her. In the past, my roommate would have to walk clear around the children as she would become anxious. He mentioned this to me, and I just smiled.
People spend so much money trying to find the best food, the best toys, the best treats. This is by far the best thing I have ever done for my fur baby. She is not the same dog. Candace is amazing and has a gift of healing. Give this gift to your fur baby. You won't be disappointed."

Thank you, Susan for this ah-mazing testimonial!

As devoted pet owners, we are always on the lookout for ways to ensure our pets live happy, healthy lives. Emotion Code, Body Code, and Belief Code modalities tap into the energetic aspects of healing, addressing imbalances that may affect your furry friend's overall health and behavior. The synergy of these modalities offers a holistic healing approach (for dogs, cats, and horses) by tapping into the profound connection between energy and well-being.
YOU can unlock your pet's full potential for a joyful, balanced, and fulfilling life. Remember, a healthy and happy pet contributes not only to their well-being, but also to the joy and harmony of your shared companionship.
Understanding the Codes:
Emotion Code: Unlocking Emotional Baggage
Emotion Code identifies and releases trapped emotions in your pet's energy field. Dogs, cats, and horses, like humans, carry emotional baggage from past experiences, traumas, or even inherited emotions. Through muscle testing or applied kinesiology, trapped emotions are released promoting emotional balance and well-being in your furry companion.
Body Code: Balancing the Physical and Energetic Body
Body Code takes the concept of energy healing a step further by addressing not only emotions but also imbalances in various aspects of your pet's physical and energetic body. This includes identifying nutritional imbalances, pathogens, structural issues, and more. By clearing these imbalances, Body Code can restore harmony to your pet's overall health, supporting their vitality and resilience.
Belief Code: Transforming Limiting Beliefs
Dogs, cats, and horses, much like humans, can develop limiting beliefs that impact their behavior and well-being. Belief Code focuses on identifying and transforming these beliefs, fostering a positive mindset in your pet. Whether it's fear, anxiety, or behavioral challenges, addressing limiting beliefs can lead to a more balanced and confident furry companion.
To your pets healing!
~Candace ❤️

Have you ever noticed that at the beginning of each new year people are heavily focused on creating an abundance mindset?

So, what is an abundance mindset and how do you know if you have one? And, if you don’t have one, how can you cultivate one?

An abundance mindset refers to the belief that there are enough resources, opportunities, and success to go around for everyone. It's a way of thinking that focuses on the endless possibilities and potential for growth rather than scarcity or limitations.

People with an abundance mindset believe in their ability to create and attract opportunities, they're open to collaboration, learning, and are generally more optimistic about the future. It's about embracing a mindset where abundance and success are achievable through positivity, growth, and a willingness to see opportunities instead of obstacles.

Identifying whether you have an abundance mindset involves recognizing certain thought patterns, behaviors, and perspectives that align with an abundance mentality. Here are some great questions that can help you determine if you have an abundance mindset:

Gratitude: Do you regularly express gratitude for what you have in your life, acknowledging and appreciating both big and small blessings?

Possibilities: Do you tend to see opportunities rather than obstacles in various situations?

Jealousy/Comparison: Do you celebrate the successes and achievements of others without feeling envious or comparing your life to theirs?

Positivity: Do you maintain a positive outlook, believing in your ability to overcome challenges and achieve your goals?

Embracing Change: Are you open to change and growth, seeing it as a chance for learning and advancement rather than something to fear or resist?

Relationships: Do you believe in the abundance of love, support, and opportunities within relationships, fostering connections rather than fearing scarcity or competition?

Responsibility: Do you take responsibility for your actions and decisions, understanding that your choices can create opportunities and shape your reality?

Generosity/Sharing: Do you share your knowledge, resources, and opportunities with others, believing that there is plenty for everyone?

Self-Worth: Do you recognize your own worth, without relying on external validation or possessions to define your value?

If you answered “yes” to most of these questions, it's likely that you possess an abundance mindset. But what if you answered “no” to some of these questions? Does that mean your doomed to a life of lack?

Of course not.

However, it's essential to remember that you can always work on cultivating an abundance mindset by releasing imbalances and energetic blocks that are preventing you from having that abundance mindset.

The Body Code and Belief Code systems offer unique approaches to address the underlying causes of limiting beliefs and emotional blocks, contributing significantly to the development of an abundance mindset.

Body Code identifies and releases imbalances within the body that contribute to mental, emotional, and physical limitations. By identifying and correcting these imbalances, you can increase emotional clarity, reduced stress, release pain/trauma, and experience a greater sense of well-being. When the body is in balance and harmony, it can support a more positive mindset, allowing for the cultivation of abundance.

Belief Code focuses on identifying and releasing subconscious belief systems that may be holding you back from abundance. Many beliefs are deeply ingrained within us and influence our everyday thoughts, actions, and perceptions about the world. By identifying and releasing belief systems about scarcity, unworthiness, or fear of success, Belief Code can help you establish new empowering beliefs that align with abundance.

Both systems work together to address the physical and emotional aspects of abundance mindset development. Here's how:

Releasing Emotional Blocks: Body Code identifies, and releases trapped emotions, negative energies, or imbalances that contribute to feelings of scarcity or fear.

Identifying Limiting Beliefs: Belief Code uncovers subconscious beliefs that may be limiting your ability to manifest abundance.

True Alignment: Both systems move a client toward their true alignment, addressing mental, emotional, and physical imbalances.

Empowerment and Manifestation: By releasing emotional baggage and reshaping limiting beliefs, you are better positioned to manifest your desires and goals.

The Body Code and Belief Code systems address mental, emotional, physical, and spiritual imbalances that once released, allow you to shift your focus from scarcity to abundance. You can then gradually transform your mindset and open yourself up to a world of possibilities and abundance in all areas of your life.

To your healing!

~Candace ❤️

This bustling holiday season marks the end of another year and is a natural time for people to reflect on their lives. It’s a time when we can acknowledge and appreciate connection with others, achievements along the way, and it’s the perfect time to practice the art of genuine gratitude.

Genuine gratitude is an authentic feeling of thankfulness and appreciation that comes from your heart. It involves more than just saying "thank you"; it involves humility, understanding, and a desire to reciprocate or pay forward the kindness or favor received. Expressing gratitude can increase levels of happiness, improve mood, increase health, and overall life satisfaction.

Have you ever noticed that the more you focus on things that you are thankful for, the better you feel? That’s gratitude in action.

But what does it look like if someone doesn’t have the ability to experience gratitude? Many people have trouble expressing gratitude for various reasons: seasonal affective disorder, negative belief systems, mindset, upbringing, stress, or life challenges, etc. Someone might overlook or dismiss the efforts of other’s, often taking things for granted. They might expect favors or help without feeling the need to express appreciation or reciprocate. They might lack empathy toward those who have helped or supported them. Without gratitude, they might focus more on what they lack rather than what they have, which only leads to feelings of dissatisfaction or longing for something more.

A "Heart Wall" in the Emotion Code/Body Code systems refer to a collection of trapped emotions that the subconscious mind uses to surround the heart as a protective barrier or “wall” against emotional pain. This barrier can block the flow of energy through the body making it difficult to heal itself, it can block us from fully opening our hearts to others, and it prevents one from fully experiencing emotions like love, joy, and gratitude.

Love, joy, and gratitude reside behind a Heart Wall so when it is released, it can help individuals access and experience these higher frequency emotions more freely. By removing the emotional blockages and allowing emotions to flow more naturally, people may find it easier to tap into feelings of genuine gratitude, precipitate self-healing, and cultivate deeper connections with others.

Here's how releasing your Heart Wall can help you experience gratitude:

Emotional Well-being: The removal of trapped emotions can alleviate emotional burdens and promote a sense of well-being. This may result in increased emotional resilience and the ability to cope with life's challenges more effectively, with less reactivity.

Physical Health: The removal of trapped emotions can have a positive effect on your physical health. Unresolved emotional issues can increase stress and pain levels, which may significantly impact your physical health over time. Releasing these emotions can support your overall health.

Improved Relationships: Trapped emotions influence our perceptions, beliefs, and behaviors potentially affecting relationships. By releasing these emotions, you may experience improved communication, understanding, and connection with others.

Increased Energy Flow: Trapped emotions can create energetic blockages. By removing these blockages, the natural flow of energy in the body can be restored, leading to increased vitality, well-being, and a greater sense of well-being.

Releasing your Heart Wall can indeed have a profound impact on your ability to experience gratitude. This process can lead to a more open and connected emotional state, enabling you to recognize and appreciate the positive aspects of your life more deeply. This newfound emotional freedom can allow gratitude to flourish naturally as you experience a greater sense of connection, empathy, and appreciation for the world around you no matter what time of year it is.

To your healing!

~Candace ❤️

Generational trauma, also known as ancestral trauma, refers to past psychological and emotional pain that has been passed down within a family, generation to generation. Negative emotional imprints and energetic imbalances related to past experiences, including those from previous generations, can be stored in your body. These imprints may affect your reactions, behaviors, and decisions even if you are not consciously aware of the specific past traumas.

As a Body Code and Emotion Code practitioner, I assist clients in releasing generational trauma. These holistic energy healing systems identify and release imbalances in the body's energy system. These imbalances can contribute to physical, emotional, and mental health issues. I work with your subconscious using muscle testing and energetic balancing to identify and release these imbalances. Once released, the effects of generational trauma can be alleviated within you, as well as for past and future generations. This is important for several reasons:

Physical and Emotional Well-being: Generational trauma can manifest as physical and emotional issues within you. Releasing this trauma can help alleviate symptoms and promote overall well-being.

Breaking the Cycle: Trauma can be passed down through generations, affecting the mental and emotional health of a family’s descendants. By releasing this trauma, you can break the cycle and prevent it from affecting future generations.

Improved Relationships: Generational trauma can influence your relationships with others. Releasing it can lead to healthier interactions and more fulfilling connections with your family, friends, and others.

Increased Self-Awareness: Releasing generational trauma allows you to gain insight into your own experiences and those of your ancestors. This increased self-awareness can lead to a deeper understanding of your family history.

Empowerment: Taking control of your own healing process is empowering! Releasing generational trauma allows you to take an active role in your own mental, emotional, and physical well-being

Enhanced Resilience: Releasing generational trauma can contribute to increased emotional resilience. It can help you better cope with challenges and adversity, leading to a more balanced and fulfilling life.

Creating a Positive Legacy: By releasing generational trauma, you can contribute to a positive legacy for your own descendants. You can pass on a healthier emotional and mental state, creating a more nurturing environment for your children, and future generations to come.

To your healing!

~Candace ❤️

In every initial meeting with clients, I pay attention to what they say, and how they say it. Even before they describe the circumstances of their lives, I can tell by their word choice where they are in life, and how easy or difficult things might be for them.

Everything is energy including the words you use. There is a corresponding frequency for each word that you speak into existence. The words you choose add to your personal energy field which is always interacting with other energy fields throughout the day. What you say to yourself, and about yourself matters.

One of the first concepts I teach clients is to Watch Your Words, because words and their frequencies ultimately create your outer world whether your words are negative or positive, disempowering, or empowering.

In order to change, the first step is always awareness – to be in awareness of how you have been speaking and the words you have been choosing. It takes some effort to monitor your words, but it is so worth it. You might start by asking yourself: are the words I use uplifting and contributing to greater possibilities in my life? Are they supportive? Do they make me feel good? Or are these comments heavy, dark, and unsupportive? Do these comments feel limiting and constricting?

I always tell clients that there are two ways to speak: with Fear or with Love. Fear has a very specific frequency as does Love. And if you think about it, anything you say that is fear based, you can tweak so that it is love based. Love based words always carry a higher frequency and expand your personal frequency and energy field.

Here are a few examples:

Fear Based
I'm so stupid
I don't know
My life stinks
Nothing ever works out for me
Here we go again...

Love Based
I can learn
I look forward to finding out
I can change my life for the better
There are opportunities for growth!
What can I learn from this?

While these tweaks might seem simple and insignificant, they are tremendously powerful. If you are in a pattern of self-criticism, victim mentality, or unworthiness it is time to require more of yourself and change the language you use. When you know better, you do better, step by step.

To your freedom!


I’m one of the people who never really thought that there was any truth to Empty Nest Syndrome (ENS). Turns out that ENS is quite real for many of us. There are different degrees and symptoms attributed to this label, and many ways to reframe or heal from it. While commonly associated with a child leaving for college, ENS can show up in a wide range of other life situations. Through my Intuitive Energy Coaching practice, I have discovered that ENS surfaces for a myriad of reasons.

What is ENS anyway? In a nutshell, it is a term used to categorize feelings when there is a loss or significant change to one’s life that includes the absence of someone close. The routine of life is upset, one may have more time on hand, new coping mechanisms for life may be needed, or there might be greater daily challenges to be faced without that person’s presence. The feelings that typically coincide with ENS are worry, grief, sadness, anxiety, depression, hopelessness, frustration, and fear. A common characteristic of ENS is the greater the lack of satisfaction in one’s life, the greater the degree of ENS. For example, using the college example, if a parent has their own identity wrapped up in their child for 18 years - putting the “self on the shelf” as I call it - that parent will most likely experience a greater loss or void when the child leaves home.

Why do we experience ENS? When there is a significant change to one’s life a void is often created. This emotional transition gets magnified because life is “different” now, and one pays closer attention to what/who caused this void. And because where your attention goes energy flows, the person experiencing this new void tends to focus on what is wrong with their life as opposed to what is right. Here are some other examples of ENS, beyond the stereotypical child going off to college.

Empty Nest Syndrome is totally normal, whether your child is off to college, or you miss your pet after a few days. What we focus on expands from an energetic perspective, so it’s important to work through ENS and create a new environment for yourself. Using the examples listed above you can: anticipate the reunion with your pet, talk to your partner about your fear, honor the good times in your friendship, talk about your grief, reframe the time without your children, and choose to feel empowered living on your own. And, if your child is going off to college, decide to keep in touch in a way that honors each other’s boundaries. You can also start a new hobby, find a support group, volunteer, travel, reconnect with your partner, keep in better touch with family/friends, create a side hustle, get back into shape, or journal to name a few. Most importantly: start creating new, meaningful experiences, and memories and look toward your future with momentum!

To Your Freedom!

~Candace O’Brien

Triggers - What Are They?
A trigger, or a “trigger response”, means to re-experience symptoms of a painful memory, feeling, or event. For the person being triggered, they are remembering a trauma; a sense of being marginalized, uncomfortable, offended, or ill-at-ease based upon a past event. A trigger could be a reminder of anything: an argument, event, smell, sound, sight, or physical sensation. Someone who is triggered and provoked is experiencing not just the event in the present moment, but the heightened memory of a past traumatic event as well.

When we experience a traumatic event, our minds hold onto the emotion that comes from it and stores it as a memory. If we encounter a trigger years later, even if from other people or events, the mind is reliving and reactivating the same emotions associated with the first trauma – it gets triggered. In most cases, the trigger response is sharper now because it is an amalgamation of the original trauma in addition to any other traumas similar to it, plus the event now. Most of the time, people are unaware of their triggers and why they show up.

When someone experiences a trigger event, they are reliving some prior trauma. While the present-day aggressor might not understand or even know about the trigger response, the recipient is mentally reliving and experiencing the traumatic event over again, but now with more emphasis. Because a trigger is deeply personal, it is highly emotional, and the reaction usually is in excess. Triggers are highly catabolic reactions and are tremendously draining because you lose valuable energy when triggered. Others may trigger us, but they didn’t create our triggers.

Triggers – General Examples

Triggers - Specific Examples

People don’t trigger you - they activate your trigger, and you react to that trigger. Your trigger can still be triggered because it has not yet been healed. You are responsible for all the triggers that you currently have, and you are responsible for healing them too.

So how best to heal, or manage your triggers? I’m a believer in turning and facing any challenge. Triggers are no exception. As we learned above, they are old patterns of reactions that need to be healed.

A few options for managing your triggers would be to identify where you trigger(s) came from. You can also choose to dissociate from the trigger, to not be in the trenches with it, but rather see it from a 10,000-foot view for greater objectivity. Communicate the emotions that you associate with your trigger. Finally, practice self-love, patience, and grace with yourself as you learn to dial down your response to the trigger, so it no longer owns your present-day reactions or behavior.

To your freedom!


What exactly does it mean when you hear someone say, “your thoughts create your reality?” It seems like a simple concept, but it’s much more complex.

What you tell yourself matters. Our thoughts create our future experiences. It’s like placing your order at a drive thru – you speak into the squawk box and order what you want (what you are focused on), and then you drive to the next window to pick up that order. Well, the Universe operates in a similar way. And the Universe is so literal, it will feed us back experiences based upon our thoughts, whether they are negative or positive. It is thoroughly objective and very responsive.

When you think a thought, that thought creates a specific frequency. It is as though the Universe hears that frequency by way of vibration and gives it back to us in the form of a future experience. What you are thinking right now will show up in your life, in the future. At any moment the thoughts you think are creating your future experiences which will show up tomorrow, next month, next year, or in a decade. That’s the rub: there is no specific or designated time in which the Universe will hand you an experience to match what you are currently thinking or focusing on. That is why it is critical to your transformation and future to be mindful, always! What you are saying to yourself right now will show up in a future experience whether you want it to or not.

So, what is your current inner dialogue? What do you say about yourself and others? Is what you are thinking or saying an experience that you would like to show up in your future? For example: if you are thinking or saying, “My life is terrible.” Literally, the Universe will energetically hear that and bring you more life experiences that reflect that your life is terrible. The flip side of that is if you are thinking “I love my life,” the Universe will energetically hear that too, and bring you life experiences that reflect more of what you love. Your outer world reflects your inner world. What you think, whether it’s negative or positive, shows up outside of you in the form of an experience ergo: Your thoughts create your (outer) reality.

But the great thing about thoughts is that they can be changed. And they can be managed. You and you alone have the power to change the way you think. Nobody can do it for you. You can choose differently, you can choose to monitor your thoughts which in turn, will create a new (future) reality. By monitoring your thoughts, you can choose to accept and allow only thoughts of a high frequency such as love, freedom, compassion, joy, fulfillment, and creation. Only thoughts of a higher, more elevated  frequency will propel you into a future of your own design.

By practicing mindfulness and being aware of your thoughts, you can start to challenge them if necessary, or reframe them into an experience you would like to have in the future. The key is to become aware of what isn’t working in your life or what you don’t want in your life and choose to think differently. Most people have no idea that their thoughts create their reality and let harmful thoughts go unchallenged and unanswered, until ultimately, those thoughts show up in the person’s reality.

Since everything in our Universe is energy and all energy emits a vibration and frequency it is important that you become aware of the different vibes your thoughts create. If you are thinking survival or stress thoughts of anger, shame, guilt, impatience, frustration, hatred, greed, etc. those carry a very low frequency. In fact, I call them the “low and slow” gang of frequencies. If you are thinking more elevated thoughts of love, gratitude, compassion, freedom, and joy etc. those carry a much higher frequency. And elevating your frequency is the first step to creating sustainable change in your life.

To your freedom!

~Candace O’Brien


You might have heard this phrase, but do you know what it means? It means different things to different people because it is ultimately a deep and largely subjective question that has a myriad of definitions. In this article, I offer to you a basic understanding from a spiritual perspective.

During an awakening one may notice they feel sad or depressed without knowing the true cause. They might feel like their world doesn’t make sense anymore or they may feel detached. A person may feel a void within themselves, as if something is missing or that they are “off” in some way, yet they don’t know why. One may start questioning their soul and ask questions like: Why am I here? What is wrong with me? What is my purpose? Why can’t I just be happy?

It might feel as though there is a longing within you - a desire for a better way of being and a better life. To awaken means to become familiar with or to become conscious of how you have been living your life passively. Awakening is a process through which one becomes a different person - a person who is more aware and in control of their thoughts and behavior. It is becoming aware of how your subconscious is impacting the course of your life.

An awakening usually starts within a person as a quiet rumble – when the person realizes that their life isn’t working as they intend it to. Maybe they are angry all the time, or in fear. Maybe they complain about others or judge themselves constantly. Perhaps they overeat, overdrink, or find other ways to escape and distract. Maybe they hate their life or have questions about how they got to where they are, their relationship with themselves, and their relationship with other people. Maybe they are starting to remember some of their dysfunctional childhood and how it has affected the course of their life and development.

When an awakening comes on strong, it is typically on the heels of a life changing event or trauma. Examples of this may include a negative health diagnosis, divorce, job loss, trauma, betrayal, addiction, death, depression, anxiety, abuse, car accident, mid-life crisis, etc. In this stage, one is likely to “wake up to” their own negative energy from inner thought patterns. These life changing events spur one into taking inventory of their life, its events, and the people in it. When one awakens, they realize that something in their life is not working well.

One might think, feel, and behave within survival and stress emotions like fear, anger, resentment, frustration, impatience, insecurity, depression, anxiety, guilt, shame, etc. They may find themselves in repetitive, familiar situations and relationships that are unhealthy and draining.

Before an awakening, one may feel like their life is just another version of Groundhog Day- the same negative patterns recurring every day. However, as their heart and soul gently nudge them into a new state of being - an awakened state - they begin to understand who they have been, how they have been behaving, and what needs to change.

For each of us, there comes a time when we must
awaken and become what we were born to become.
~Seth Adam Smith


Awareness or self-awareness is the ability to identify what drives an individual’s thoughts, beliefs, and patterns of behavior – or how one shows up in life. The practice of self-awareness allows one to see their life and behavior from an objective perspective. They learn to identify reactive patterns of thought and behavior, to self-regulate, and identify where they can make changes in their lives from an empowered stance. An aware person takes control of their life instead of being victimized by it.

People are programmed early in life to react to certain situations in a specific way. A negative event such as abuse, trauma, or betrayal occurs and an emotion from that event is generated (fear, anger, resentment, frustration, impatience, insecurity, depression, anxiety, guilt, shame). These low frequency, negative emotions leave a chemical residue that is stored in the body.

For example, if a child experiences negative emotions on a continual basis, these emotional reactions become part of who they are, part of their unconscious programs or patterns of thought and behavior. While a person cannot change what happened to them, they can change how they react to it from an energetic perspective.

Being self-aware allows the space to correct thoughts, beliefs, patterns of behavior, and start making incremental changes in life. Awareness allows one to regain control of their lives and chart their own course instead of living passively. An aware person starts to focus on people, emotions, and things outside of themselves that engage and elevate their heart and soul. This new relationship with themselves typically leads a person to deeper and more meaningful connections with others.

To be self-aware allows one the freedom to course correct: to disinvest their energy and attention from old patterns of thought, beliefs, and behavior and create a new way of being in the world and a new way to show up in life. It allows one to live a life of their own choosing according to their own elevated values and perceptions. In this higher vibrational state people start to pick up on others’ frequencies and start to trust their intuition more. They begin to recognize what isn’t working for them any longer and who isn’t an energetic match. They also begin to understand that they are at the crossroads of choice every moment of every day, and that this gives them control of their lives.

I am not what happened to me.
I am what I choose to become.
~Carl Jung


In my practice I see many clients who are experiencing their own awakening. They initially come to me because they think they are going crazy or losing their mind because nothing “feels” the same anymore. They feel lost, anxious, or sad at the life they currently have and how they behave, and they want to learn to make changes once and for all. Believe me, I get it.

However, when clients start to understand this natural waking up process, they learn tools, techniques, and concepts to become aware of who they have been and why. They learn to course correct and elevate their frequency to make sustainable, positive changes in their lives. They learn to stop being a victim and step into their role as permanent creator of their future.

To your freedom!
~Candace O’Brien
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