You know that feeling at the beginning of a relationship, the butterflies, the buzz, the “we just get each other” high?
That buzz? That pull? It might not be chemistry. It might be trauma.
When people first meet, especially in those electric early stages, they are not just bonding over shared interests or surface-level compatibility. What is actually happening is a matching of frequencies. But here is the part nobody talks about, it is not always a healthy frequency. It is a familiar one.
We gravitate to what resonates with us. Not what is good for us. Not what is aligned with our future. Just… what matches our current frequency. That might mean two people unconsciously bonding through unresolved wounds, abandonment, insecurity, unworthiness, fear. That type of match does not come from the heart. It comes from the nervous system.
There is a name for this. It is called a trauma bond.
It is magnetic. It is real. And it is often the foundation of why people come together in the first place.
But frequencies aren’t fixed. They shift. Sometimes subtly. Sometimes without warning. Long before someone starts actively doing “the work,” their energy starts to change. Maybe it is a vague sense that something feels off. A quiet voice inside whispering, “This isn’t quite right.” Or a longing that creeps in, pulling them toward something more… even if they don’t know what that is yet.
That is the early signal of frequency misalignment. And when one person starts to change, even if they don’t fully understand why, it affects the relationship.
Healing is not all sunshine and unicorns. Sometimes, it is disruptive. Sometimes, it looks like questioning everything you thought was stable. It is realizing that the dynamic you built your life on was rooted in emotional survival, not authentic connection.
The more someone releases old emotional baggage or subconscious patterns, the more their frequency shifts. And if the other person isn’t shifting with them, the relationship starts to feel heavy, stuck, or out of sync. It’s not always about who hurts who. It’s about whether your energy still matches.
That is what most people don’t understand about divorce. It is not always a sign of failure. Often, it is just a sign of growth. A sign that what once felt like resonance has turned into resistance.
Because it’s not just what you do in a relationship. It’s what you bring. Your energy either expands the relationship… or it slowly unravels it.
And when one person is shifting frequencies, whether through healing, introspection, or simply following that quiet inner pull, it becomes almost impossible to stay in a connection that no longer fits.
This does not mean you did anything wrong. It means you are waking up.
In my work as a Master Code Practitioner and Subconscious Specialist, I have seen this happen again and again. The moment someone starts releasing the root cause of trauma, emotional pain, physical imbalances, negative programming, and subconscious patterns, their life starts to shift. Sometimes dramatically. Sometimes gently. But always in the direction of alignment.
We don’t attract what we want. We attract what we are. And when your frequency changes, your relationships either rise with you, or fall away.
This is not punishment. It is clarity.
And the best way to find answers for you… is from you, your subconscious.
If you’re feeling that quiet call for something more, you’re not broken. You’re just tuning in. And you’re not alone.
You can find me at www.Momentum-Healing.com, where I help people and pets around the world do exactly that. No guesswork. No reliving trauma. Just powerful, non-invasive work that helps you return to the frequency of who you really are.
With love and momentum,
Candace ❤️
